Why is letting go of yesterday so hard? Why do we feel pulled into the past as if lingering there mentally will allow us to prolong it? And why would we want to prolong it? The days pass ne’er to return. And depending on how much emotion and energy we experience in them, we may …
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You always lose the blame game, so practice personal responsibility instead
When someone or something puts us out and creates problems for us, our initial response might be to blame the person, event, or thing we view as the obvious culprit. We focus on that person, event, or thing, give it all our anger, call it names, and we might carry our emotional response with us …
Embracing the New
To live is to be in an ongoing state of change. Nothing is ever the same. Nothing is static. Everything is moving. Everything is in flux. We can hold on to the familiar for a little while, especially if it aligns with our life path. But at some point, we’ll have to let it go …
Ignoring Isn’t Igrnorant
A lot of people value combat. Even in daily disputes. But combat consumes a lot of energy and doesn’t guarantee desirable outcomes. And just like judging or gossiping, anytime we combat others, we’re representing ourselves – not necessarily the situation or another person. When we yell, curse, throw, punch, or smite, we show the world …
Might as Well Enjoy
We’re going to get to the end no matter what thoughts we think, words we say, or decisions we make. We’re going to face the end of the chores, the projects, the tough times, the good times. We’re going to face the end of our lives. So, why go through it all frazzled and stressed? …
Most of the Time
The purpose of our lives is not to achieve perfection. And it’s arguable that life is inherently perfect or that everything about our lives is already part of a perfect whole. Regardless, it’s just not necessary to strive for perfection all of the time. Maybe some pivotal moments require a flawless performance. Maybe some critical opportunities …
You Are What You Judge
Do you know that your judgment of others is a reflection of you? And how you feel about yourself? It rarely has anything to do with the people you’re judging. See, judgment is a defense mechanism that helps us justify our lives and maintain a sense of control. But control is something we seek when …
Pursue or Pivot?
Sometimes it’s hard to know whether to stay on a path or get off and reroute. Whether the road ahead is dreary, bright, promising, or unclear – the choice to move forward can be paralyzing. So, how do you decide? How you do know which path is the right choice? Well, you don’t. All you can …
What Is Forgiveness?
Forgiveness is not about making someone say “I’m sorry.” It’s not about hanging our heads in shame or lamenting our wrongdoings. It’s not about who’s right or wrong, who’s better or worse. Most day-to-day experiences do not require such a strong emotional emphasis. In fact, they require the opposite. They require us to let go …
Balance Doing and Being
There’s no sense in rushing through life. We’re all headed to the same destination. It’s like speeding around cars only to stop at a red light alongside everyone you just passed. However, an unproductive, lazy sort of life is a lot less fulfilling than one with ambitions and dreams. No matter how big or small …