When we try to change our habits, we tend to focus on the habit we want to change. The problem with that is, we’re still thinking about the habit. The habit is still the focus of our minds. What we really want to do is stop thinking about the habit and start thinking about other …
We don’t need to suffer to give our lives meaning. Sounds weird, but we sometimes use suffering as a metric for how well we live and how much we love. But we don’t need to suffer to prove our love or justify our joy. It’s always okay to be happy no matter what happens – …
You don’t always have to do things because they’re practical, efficient, or cost effective. You can also do things for the pure joy if it. Life doesn’t always have to be a perfectly orchestrated event. It can be messy, sporadic, unplanned, and take unexpected twists and turns. So why not let go of the need …
Middle path, less-traveled path, straight and narrow path – it doesn’t matter. All that matters is that you stay true to yourself and keep on the path that makes you feel whole. Sometimes we stray from our paths. That’s okay. We can usually tell because our relationships are challenging, our jobs are unsatisfying, and we …
Perfectionism gets in the way of progress and can quickly become a procrastination habit. Waiting for everything to be perfect before executing our plans just keeps us wading in what-ifs and I-wonders. It’s good to prioritize quality, but it’s not so good to obsess over it. So, instead of waiting until everything is perfect, just …
We tend to judge people and get overly concerned with how other people are living their lives when we feel dissatisfied with our own. See, our judgments are just projections of how we feel about ourselves – they really have nothing to do with the people we’re judging. So, instead of wasting time nitpicking other …
The consequence of doing what’s easy now is that we often end up having a harder time later. It’s like the instant versus delayed gratification conundrum. Easy is actually harder in the long run. We might choose easy because it keeps us comfy, whereas hard forces us to do something new, stretch our brains, or …
We have to start somewhere. But sometimes we stall so much our dreams start to rot. One of the biggest forms of stalling is overplanning. Planning makes us feel like we’re headed somewhere. Planning is good. Setting goals is good. But when we start circling around and priding ourselves on how amazing our plans are, …
Life transformation starts with self-forgiveness. We have to clean the slate before we can build a new, sturdy foundation. And we have to practice acceptance at the most basic level, starting with ourselves. We need to forgive ourselves for our mistakes, imperfections, and embarrassments. We must accept that we aren’t perfect and will probably continue …
