Ever get angry about stupid things? Say yes. We all do. It’s okay to feel angry sometimes, but we must learn to manage our anger to prevent digging dark, lonely holes for ourselves. Anger is rooted in our need for control Anger is the result of life not happening the way we want it to. We have such a …
Think about it. When you take a risk and go against the grain, people object and give you a thousand reasons why it’s not a good idea or why you won’t succeed. Don’t believe what they say, but consider their objection as an indicator that you are on the right track. Usually, people respond negatively to …
Whether you are married 20 years with kids or fresh out of college and just starting your adult life, if you are a woman, then you need to read this book: Friendships Don’t Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriends by Shasta Nelson. Shasta talks about how people come in and …
“Finish your broccoli,” my mother would say at the dinner table when I was a kid. Noticing that my mother’s plate did not contain broccoli, I would ask, “But, where is your broccoli, Mommy?” Without hesitation, Mommy replied, “I ate mine in the kitchen while I was cooking.” Years later, I found out that was a …
We all go through a phase where we blame our parents for the negative aspects of who we are and where we are (or are not) in our lives. Though it’s useful to reflect on the past, it’s not helpful to continue blaming. When we consistently blame others, we entrap ourselves and give other people …
How do you reason with unreasonable people? You don’t. I am sorry to say, but you do not reason with unreasonable people because they are, in fact, unreasonable. However, there are some communication tactics that can abate your nerves and make tough conversations more productive. Consider these the next time you are confronted by an …
Letting go of the past is a skill that you can develop. Although it is somewhat abstract, the skill of letting go is practiced with a few simple tools and a lot of patience. Everyone has something they need to let go. It may be resentment toward parents, a grudge against an old friend, an …
Justice and equality do not exist because of any law or policy or because of the lack of any law or policy. Justice and equality exist when a person looks at another person with acceptance, though they may be very different individuals. Fifty years ago today, Martin Luther King, Jr. gave his famous “I Have …
Life is as simple or as complicated as you make it out to be. Life is not easy, but it definitely does not have to be as challenging as we make it. Relationships, careers, guilt, expectations, self-worth – so many factors can influence the way we perceive the world and the way we perceive our …
