When someone or something puts us out and creates problems for us, our initial response might be to blame the person, event, or thing we view as the obvious culprit. We focus on that person, event, or thing, give it all our anger, call it names, and we might carry our emotional response with us …
Forgiveness is not about making someone say “I’m sorry.” It’s not about hanging our heads in shame or lamenting our wrongdoings. It’s not about who’s right or wrong, who’s better or worse. Most day-to-day experiences do not require such a strong emotional emphasis. In fact, they require the opposite. They require us to let go …
Before you respond, take a deep breath. Before you conclude, take a deep breath. Before you get out of bed, take a deep breath. That deep breath makes you pause. It gives your incredible mind a chance to process. It also gives your brain a dose of oxygen to function well. Some situations require quick …
We all have weak moments. But that doesn’t make us weak. There’s always a speck of strength glittering atop the mounds of doubt and fatigue. And it’s the choice to focus on that speck, dig it up, and be vulnerable and uncomfortable for a while that makes us strong. Regardless if the outcome is victorious. …
You see it everywhere: How to Remove Toxic People From Your Life, How to Handle Toxic Friends, and Signs You’re in a Toxic Relationship. Stop it. Just stop it. Stop calling people toxic. Calling people toxic gives us a sense of power and righteousness. It relieves us of responsibility and justifies our feelings and circumstances. …
Nothing is permanent. We know it, we say it – but in order to experience the benefits of this truth, we must adopt the concept fully and see it as something empowering, not scary. Life is impermanent. We all have an end date, though we don’t necessarily know when that is. This isn’t scary or morbid or …
Okay you’re pissed. And you’re trying really hard to not react, lose your cool, or overdramatize the situation. I could give you some gentle Buddha quotes to ease your temperament, but I doubt they’d help right now. A punching bag would probably be more useful. Or maybe some kitten therapy. If it makes you feel any …
We hem. We haw. We wonder. We sit in silence with glaring eyes and dissatisfied temperaments. All because people aren’t doing what we expect them to do. Expectation is the number one killer of relationships. Assumption is a close second. And communication brings up the rear. Our biggest fault, hugest mistake, most glaringly obvious blunder is placing …
We tend to corner ourselves into certain thinking patterns that are neither rational nor productive. These thinking patterns stay with us our entire lives and ultimately hold us back from living the life we desire. You know what I’m talking about. The negative thought patterns, the victimizing statements, the self-insults, the can’ts, the resentments. Resentment, …
Self-perception is an odd thing. We can try and try and try to not let other people’s words and actions determine our self-worth, but it’s really hard. And sometimes we trip over the stones others drop in front of us, regardless if they meant to drop them or not. Other people’s words and actions don’t define …
